Because we live in a world that is focused on cleanliness, many parents do their best to keep their children clean at all times. This is often a byproduct of homes where both parents are working and there is little time for doing laundry. We have become a looking-good society with an emphasis more on how we look than who we are.
Young girls unfortunately often get locked into this mindset, especially when they are not allowed to play and get dirty. It is reinforced by their being bombarded by advertisements telling them how they look is the most important part of who they are.
Girls and dresses
Most little girls hate fancy, frilly dresses, according to eNannySource.com. While parents love to see their little feminine darlings in ruffle-filled attire, the nannies say “No” to the ruffles and bows.
Frilly dresses tend to keep a little girl from being a little girl and playing. While they are great for picture-taking and trips to church and other formal functions, they are not great for everyday wear.
However, researchers in a study done by May Ling Halim, say that between the ages of 3 and 4, little girls go through a period of gender rigidity in which they prefer pink or purple frilly princess-type dresses. (This was a cross-cultural study with a good sample base.)
Helping children build autonomy
Letting your little girl choose what she wants to wear is a great way to help her build autonomy. Children who do not build healthy autonomy remain dependent and do not get a chance to become self-actualized adults. Self-actualization is the process of fulfilling one’s potential and allowing one’s creativity to flow into all areas of one’s life.
Some ways to help your child build autonomy include:
- Letting them make choices, which includes allowing them the time it takes to mull over their options before making a choice. In today’s busy world, parents may not always have the time to wait for a child to choose what to wear, but the more often you can do that, the more you help your child build autonomy.
- Let them solve their own problems. Teach them how to look for solutions and give them the time and space to find workable solutions.
- Teach them how to do things for themselves and then let them be free to do these things. When they don’t quite meet their goals in doing things for themselves, gently make suggestions as to how they can improve.
Caroline Bosmans for Girls
From its simple yet stylish tees to its non-frilly skirts, Caroline Bosmans’ line of girls’ clothing is made for the girls who hate frilly, ruffle-filled clothing. Its comfort and style allow girls the freedom to romp and play and enjoy being children.
The soft cotton material is quite washable, so girls can get as dirty as they want while they play.
Being able to play out in nature is good for children, according to Taylor Newman on Parenting.com, with many positive benefits:
- Children who play outside have overall stress levels that are greatly reduced.
- Mycobacterium vaccae, a bacteria in soil, increases serotonin, which is related to happiness, so children who get dirty feel happier.
- Children who play in the dirt develop healthier immune systems.
- Playing outside in the sunshine helps regulate circadian rhythms, so kids sleep more soundly.
- Kids who play outdoors rather than with computers and other sedentary toys have less ADHD and depression.
- They are rarely Vitamin D deficient.
- Obesity, unless cause by endocrine problems, is less of a problem.
Caroline Bosmans’ skirts for girls lend themselves well to outdoor play with their comfy elastic waistbands and fullness. Her short-sleeved summer tops, from the black quilted tee to the black perforated tee and the white tee with the adorable lips badge, are well-suited to playing outdoors. With wonderful clothing like this, girls can get dirty too.